Integration explained

Our events are built around an itinerant, convergent, and integrated approach—meaning we choose each venue based on what best serves the experience: the theme, the audience, and the specific kind of joy and connection we want to offer that night. We don’t anchor our events to one static idea of nightlife and culture. Across the world—and especially in the U.S.—the dominant model of “fun” is narrow, repetitive, and honestly, kind of toxic. Most social events are centered around alcohol, or around some other activity that’s really just an excuse to drink. We reject that model — trust us!

Instead, we build experiences around integration. That means music and conversation. Performance and play. Food and fire spinning. DJs and art installations. Kink and laughter. It’s all here. Not parceled into separate worlds, but fused into something real, fluid, and alive.

Play is just one part of what we do—neither hidden nor overemphasized. Our roots were in sex parties—or what you might call play parties—which were fun, but were initially centered on one activity that not everyone felt comfortable being near. So we added more: live bands, circus acts, food vendors, salons, gallery exhibitions, panel talks, everything. And it helped—more people showed up, more kinds of people showed up. But we realized we were subtly apologizing for the presence of play at all. That wasn’t in line with our values.

We started to look around and ask: Why is play not allowed in normal social events in the United States, while it’s integrated into cultural life in so many other countries? Why is it that you can walk into almost any building and buy alcohol—a substance that kills people, fuels fights and sexual assault, and wrecks lives—but you can’t have a comfortable, casual conversation while naked, flirting, or expressing yourself sensually in a joyful, safe, consensual way? We thought that was ridiculous.

So we built our own system. When entering the Play space, your experience starts at the door, with a warm, thoughtful orientation—what we call a door-ientation. Then, if you enter a play space, there’s another short orientation before you go in. Inside, there are trained third-party consent monitors called guardians—present not to police you, but to be a friend, a resource, a grounding presence. Whether you’re nervous, confused, excited, or just need to talk something out, they’re there. Guardians are backed by professional security. After the event, if something didn’t feel right, you can report it through our anonymous post-event channel, and it goes directly to a trained third-party harm reduction service. We don’t even see the messages. That way, you’re cared for without politics, without bias, and without fear.

We want to acknowledge here that this model is not ours alone. The foundation of this safety system was created by queer performers, activists, and organizers who came long before us. Their work built the culture of play in the U.S. throughout the 20th and early 21st centuries. We owe them more than we could ever say. But we also saw the limitations. For legitimate reasons—and sometimes for strange, personal ones—those communities were often based on fear and exclusion. You had to be cool enough, know the right people, be accepted by the right clique. Safety was used as a cover for popularity contests.

We’re not here for that.

We’re here to take play, integration, convergence, and the life-enhancing skill sets that come with it—mainstream. The same way it already is in Berlin, London, Oslo, Tokyo, and so many other cities. It’s time Americans started playing.

And here’s what we mean when we say integrated and convergent:

Picture a cross between a vendor fair, a music festival, a concert, a bar, a DJ show, an orgy, an art gallery, a circus, a racetrack, a playground, a kink exhibition, a stand-up comedy club, and so much more. And by the way, those aren’t hypothetical. We’ve actually done all of those things at our events—and we couldn’t even fit the full list here.

And here’s the real magic: the skill sets we learned from the play world—consent, self-awareness, clarity, curiosity, the ability to ask for what we actually want, the ability to build connection without transaction—don’t stay in the play space. They ripple outward. They change your relationships. They shift how you communicate. They alter how you experience joy, creativity, intimacy, and life itself.

You might find you like having many play partners, or just one, or none. You might never want to play at all, and instead get lit up by fire spinning, immersive art, gallery shows, or food trucks. You might fall in love with storytelling circles or just meeting new people who get it. That’s what we’re here for.

Our events speak to the desire for community, eroticism, performance, authenticity, and freedom—and they teach downstream tools for real self-actualization, without the creepy cult vibes or Silicon Valley pretension.

If you’re into sexuality and want to express yourself in a comfortable, consent-forward, regulated environment—you can do that here.

If you want to learn better ways to connect, communicate, and be yourself—you can do that here.

If you want to explore performance, kink, food, fire, fashion, weed, art, or just chill conversation—you can do that here too.

Welcome to Life Itself. Normalize Play.