Consent
At Life Itself, we wholeheartedly embrace and celebrate the diversity of our attendees, welcoming individuals of all genders, races, body types, sexualities, religious orientations, and every other unique identity. Our commitment is to create an inclusive and respectful space where everyone's boundaries are honored, ensuring an enjoyable and consensual experience for all.
We deeply value consent in everything we do — at our parties, events, and in daily life. The following policy outlines what consent means at Life Itself and how we support it to create a safe, playful, and engaging environment for all participants.
Definitions
Consent is an agreement between participants for a specific activity, requiring understanding, clarity, and willing engagement throughout. Consent is specific, informed, and ongoing, and can be withdrawn at any time.
Consent must be FRIES:
F – Freely Given: Not under the influence of drugs, alcohol, or any form of coercion.
R – Reversible: Consent can be withdrawn at any time; past consent does not obligate continued participation.
I – Informed: Participants should understand what the activity entails before agreeing, unless a surprise is explicitly negotiated.
E – Engaged: Participants are attentive, present, and responsive during the activity.
S – Specific: Consent applies to the particular activity or scene being engaged in, not generalized.
Consent is a living agreement; it is not a one-time checkmark. It is your responsibility to ask, check, and continuously honor boundaries.
Consent policy guidelines
Verbal Permission
No touching without explicit verbal consent.
Use open-ended questions whenever possible:
“How do you feel about hugs?”
“Does this feel good?”
“Can I get you something?”
Pre-Play Discussion
No touching without explicit verbal consent.
Use open-ended questions whenever possible:
“How do you feel about hugs?”
“Does this feel good?”
“Can I get you something?”
Establish Clear Boundaries
Communicate your limits clearly.
Use a safe word or signal system if needed.
Stoplight method:
Green — Go! Yes yes yes!
Yellow — Proceed with caution; near a boundary
Red — Stop; boundary reached
For situations where verbal communication is difficult, use tapping or agreed signals to indicate yellow or red.
Check for Capacity & Sobriety
Consent is invalid if any of the following factors exist:Substance use or over-intoxication
Exhaustion or extreme fatigue
Coercion, intimidation, or external pressure
Rapid movement or inability to process information
During Play — Continuous Check-Ins
Check in regularly to ensure comfort and engagement.
Respond immediately to verbal and non-verbal cues.
Consent Violations
Boundaries can be violated intentionally or inadvertently.
Impact over intent: even unintentional violations are taken seriously.
Certain activities are prohibited at standard events for safety: blood, needles, knives, weapons, bathroom play, and rope suspension without proper infrastructure.
Reporting & Handling of reports
Key Definitions:
Reporter — The person raising a concern about a boundary violation.
Reported — The person the concern is about.
Tell a Guardian at the Event
Guardians are trained to help, believe Reports, and act with care and discretion.
When you speak to a Guardian:
They will separate Reporter and Reported.
Lead Guardian will be consulted for guidance and has final authority.
Guardians may remove someone from the space or event if needed for safety, always with discretion and kindness.
Removal does not imply wrongdoing — sometimes it is about ensuring safety and comfort for all participants.
Guardians are wearing a colored sash. Staff can also direct you to a Guardian.
Email After the Event
Reports can be submitted to consent@lifeitselfevents.com.
Guardian observations and post-event emails are used to determine outcomes and bans.
Bans
Life Itself has zero tolerance for attendees making others feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
Bans may result from Guardian reports or post-event submissions.
If you feel a ban was unfair, you may email consent@lifeitselfevents.com.
Core principles
Consent is specific, reversible, and ongoing.
Impact matters more than intent.
Open-ended, engaged communication is preferred over simple yes/no.
Guardians and Lead Guardians act with compassion, professionalism, and discretion.
Your safety, comfort, and agency are the highest priority at all times.
ladder of responsibility
The purpose of this list is to clearly state the ranking of authority during events. When situations arise, this is the order in which to direct questions.
Security and Lead Guardian
During events, the lead guardian and the security team have the authority to make decisions on behalf of the company in regards to attendees and safety measures, to ensure the safety of all participants.
The Host/Co-Founders
The company or personal organizer for that specific event will get final say on most issues that arise, outside of acute dangerous situations.
Guardian
The guardian will be the most present for all intervention-worthy situations, and therefore is encouraged to take all necessary safety measures and precautions to ensure a safe environment for all participants.
Lead Bartender
Lead Bartender has the authority to request the removal of any disturbing or combative attendees and should report straight to the lead guardian with any issues.
Bartender
The bartender should exercise caution when serving to the attendees and has the authority to cut off any participants at any time they feel overserved. Please report any cut offs to the lead bartender and guardian to ensure eyes are on the intoxicated participant at all times.
Door Attendee
The door attendee is encouraged to preliminarily vibe check the patrons and ensure they are presenting an acceptable attitude and demeanor for the event. They can reject attendees as they see fit, should elaborate on this to the lead guardian once rejection is complete.